Children who need to meet their own needs or who need to pay attention to threats, striving to survive, are not able to engage in the usual developmental tasks of attaching, playing, exploring and socializing. Their developmental pathway is full of holes and detours. At times a nine year old may act 3 years old or 15 years old. This video explores the developmental impact of early trauma and why parenting can be so tricky.
Links and Reading:
The Irreducible Needs of Children by Brazelton and Greenspan. This book is a must read for anyone wanting to understand how we meet (or don’t) the needs of children.
Born for Love by Bruce Perry and Maia Szalavitz. This book is important in understanding how meeting the needs of children supports development.
The Whole Brain Child by Daniel Siegel